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Relationships

Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships - Transactional Analysis Part 3

Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships - Transactional Analysis Part 3
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This episode is Part 3 of 3 in our Transactional Analysis series (make sure you listen to the last 2 episodes before this one!).

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Life Positions and Games - Transactional Analysis Part 2

Life Positions and Games - Transactional Analysis Part 2
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In this episode, we continue our discussion about Transactional Analysis. We recap the Parent, Adult and Child zones of thinking that we mentioned last week, and move on to talking about the 4 different Life Positions and the Games People Play.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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The Parent, The Adult and The Child - Transactional Analysis Part 1

The Parent, The Adult and The Child - Transactional Analysis Part 1
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In this episode, we discuss transactional analysis. Taimur talks us through the ideas behind the theory, and how your internal mind can be split up into three parts - the Parent, Adult, and Child.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Low Optionality and Adult Friendships
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This week we talk about a few topics that Taimur's been noticing more and more with a particular focus on an article about low social optionality and adult friendships.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Margin, Dinner Parties and The Art of Gathering

Margin, Dinner Parties and The Art of Gathering
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In this episode, we continue to discuss the difficulties of recording a podcast each week and look at Taimur's highlights from the book - The Art of Gathering.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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‘Lad’ Culture – An Insider’s Perspective
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In this episode, we have a guest appearance from Jake, a junior doctor and recovering "lad". We discuss the meaning of being a "lad", the experience from inside the group and the feelings of those of us who feel implicitly excluded from boisterous, alcohol-heavy group dynamics. Some of the highlights

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Social Interactions - Comfort, Messaging and Life Enjoyment

Social Interactions - Comfort, Messaging and Life Enjoyment
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In this episode, we discuss our favourite topic – Social Interaction – from the lenses of etiquettes of messaging, the pinnacle of the human condition amongst others.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Intentional Socialising - Podcast Highlights

Intentional Socialising - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode we talk about how we socialise — the different types of social events we take part in, and how we take part in them.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Conflict and Communication: The Roommate Relationship ft. Molly
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In this episode, Taimur acts as a relationship therapist and digs into the (strictly platonic, for the record) relationship between Ali and his roommate Molly.

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Ali Abdaal
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Small Talk and Social Awkwardness - Podcast Highlights

Small Talk and Social Awkwardness - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, Ali tells us about a party(!) he recently attended, and how he approached the social interactions there. We talk about how we approach conversations with new people, whether it's okay to talk about "work" at social events, and, of course, the idea of "small talk". Some of

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Ali Abdaal
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Is being negative ever acceptable? - Podcast Highlights

Is being negative ever acceptable? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we discuss whether negativity is ever okay...

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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How do we make friends? - Podcast Highlights

How do we make friends? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we discuss our experiences in making friends and how the process evolves from being at school to university and beyond.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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How should we give advice? - Podcast Highlights

How should we give advice? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode we talk about whether we should give advice to others, and if so, how to go about it...

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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Why do we seek permission?  - Podcast Highlights

Why do we seek permission? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we address a question from a listener. She wants to become a content creator but is concerned that because she isn't 'qualified'...

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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How To Deal With Rejection - Podcast Highlights

How To Deal With Rejection - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode we look at rejection - how we've each reacted to rejections in our lives and why some rejections affect us more than others.

Ali Abdaal
Ali Abdaal
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How much of our behaviour is status-seeking? - Podcast Highlights

How much of our behaviour is status-seeking? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we discuss the concept of social status, and wonder to what extent the signalling of status contributes to our own behaviours.

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Ali Abdaal
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What makes an awkward silence? - Podcast Highlights

What makes an awkward silence? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we talk about awkward silences, why we think they happen, how we can stop them happening and whether we should stop them happening at all.

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Ali Abdaal
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How should we take advice? - Podcast Highlights

How should we take advice? - Podcast Highlights
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In this episode, we discuss some of the feedback we've got about the podcast so far and wonder to what extent we should change things up based on advice. We then generalise this to general life - how should we take advice effectively without over-correcting our internal models based on

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Ali Abdaal
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A rule to follow in new situations

A rule to follow in new situations
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I’m writing this post from a small town in Sudan where some other doctors and I are helping out with a medical mission running pop-up clinics in local villages (PS: check out the pics on Instagram). When I’m in new situations like this, my default state is to

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Ali Abdaal
Life
Staying in Touch

Staying in Touch
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This is our very last week of medical school. It's been 6 years, we've finished all our placements, we had our Graduation Ball last night and now we've just got one more week of balls, garden parties and chilling-with-friends before the Declaration Ceremony when we get sworn in as doctors

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Ali Abdaal
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Seventy excuses

Seventy excuses
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I was having dinner with a friend recently (let’s call her Annie), when conversation turned briefly to a mutual acquaintance (let’s call her Jane). Annie voiced an issue she had with Jane, paraphrased loosely as: I don’t like Jane. I saw her in the corridor the other

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Ali Abdaal
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